There are some occasions when a number of events converge for me,
and this Memorial Day is one of them. It
is the first Memorial Day since my mother’s death; I just returned from
visiting Pearl Harbor; and the United States
is still at war in Afghanistan.
Not only have I had a decided anti-war bias since the
Vietnam War but I am profoundly bored by talk about guns, ships and planes, so
I was unprepared for what I experienced on my recent visit to Pearl Harbor when
I went to see if I could discover where Dad’s ship, the USS Case, was sitting
on December 7, 1941. I’d expected the air to be full of military
pheromones and American flags. What I
found instead was a quiet sense of respect for all who had been involved in the
conflict that day and an attempt to give visitors some sense of what it must
have been like.
Dad really never wanted to talk about the day of the Pearl
Harbor bombing. He would
only say that it was early Sunday morning and no one had expected it. He may have mentioned seeing fires on the
ship and oil burning on the water. An
account from someone who had been on the Case mentions that later when they
passed by the Arizona, they could
see it all in flames. The sheer
magnitude of the attack must have been staggering. Last night on television, there were
interviews of soldiers coming back from Afghanistan, many with post traumatic
stress syndrome, describing not only what being in the war did to them in while
they were in it, but the difficulty they had with returning to an ordinary life when they came home to their
families. Most of them were just out of
high school, college age.
I always forget that in 1941, Dad was only 21 years
old. He was no older than those faces I
see on television and wonder how our country in good conscience can send over
men not only to take part in killing first hand, but, if they survive, to live
with that experience the rest of their lives.
Dad was that young. Just out of
high school when he enlisted. I have to
make myself remember that he was not even married to Mom at that point. Researching our family history has
helped me to realize just how traumatic it must have been for him coming from a
small backwater town into the war. It
was not that he did not know hardship, since with his family background he
certainly did, but he had never seen violence on anything of that scale. His mind when he married Mom must have been
still fresh with the images of the fires, burning oil, sinking ships that he saw. He brought those into the marriage with him
and they must have been with him again as he sailed out seven days after
marriage to face what, for all he knew, might have been another Pearl
Harbor. I’ll never knew what he went
through, nor would Mom have either, but I wonder, when young, what he told her
about them and if they filled his dreams at night.
I still believe that one of the greatest services anyone
could do for our country would be to expunge military metaphors and idioms of
battle from public debate, but at the same time I have a renewed belief that it
important to try to re-envision what it was that people like my father went
through and to try to appreciate the effect that it had on them and on the
lives of those they loved. Perhaps if we
do, we may eventually come to recognize what the poet Wilfred Owen so vividly
tried to tell us back after World War I, the reality of “The old Lie: Dulce et Decorum est/ Pro patria mori.”